60 is the new 40 …

June 10, 2018 Sunset At Barbs
June 10, 2018 Sunset At Barbs


Yes, really.

OK, maybe it’s because I’m way hotter now at 60 than I was at 40… or 30 … or even 20.

But it’s not why you think.

There’s nothing hotter … or more seductive than being comfortable in your own skin.

All you women who are decades younger than me … pay attention.  (Note: I first wrote please pay attention, but I’m not going to beg you to pay attention. Because there’s nothing sexy about, well … look it up: Matthew 7:6)

In less than 24 hours I will be entering my seventh decade.  Translation: For those of you who suck at math like I do, I will be 60 years old.

Here, in no particular order, are a just few lessons I’ve learned way past the halfway point.

Be strong.

Don’t anyone ever take away your power. Because power is hot.  It’s the ultimate aphrodisiac. The ultimate gauge of hotness.

It’s not about how many pounds you can benchpress.  I can benchpress more now than I could at 20. It’s about how strong you can go mentally and spiritually against those who would intimidate you.

In the gym of life, mind and soul will always defeat body.

Pay attention to lyrics that move you.

“After changes upon changes, we are more or less the same.” Ah, yes, the lost verse from Simon and Garfunkel’s,”The Boxer.”  Forty years after I learned how to play this song on the guitar, its words continue to teach their lesson.  We all take comfort where we can when we hurt the most.  And I will gladly hand the stone to anyone who thinks they are so far above this that it gives them permission to judge those of us who are mere humans.

I’ll say it again … Pay attention to lyrics that move you.

“Moons and Junes and Ferris wheels
The dizzy dancing way you feel
As every fairy tale comes real
I’ve looked at love that way” – Judy Collins Both Sides Now

This is one of my top five favorite songs ever.  I used to have to wait for it to play on my favorite radio station. Now I can play it over and over and over and over again thanks to my Spotify subscription.

Love is love.

You are never too old to fall in love.  It will grab you by the heart when you least expect it, have its way with you, and leave you at the side of the road exhausted, out of breath and bleeding, but giving thanks for a bittersweetness for which you would sell your soul over and over again.

Bitches peak early.  

Be patient, nerds, you will one day redefine what it means to be cool.

Old friends

There’s nothing sweeter than reconnecting with old friends who shaped your life 40 years earlier.  Thank you, Facebook.


The secret to a long relationship is to never break up.  Yes, it’s that simple … and that difficult.

That is all … for now.





Author: Barb Besteni

I've been in a writer long enough to know that change is not only inevitable, it's what keeps us going. Don't fight it, don't fear it. Embrace it and have fun.

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